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Regardless of the particular brand of sex addiction, this stage of reentry into the dating pool is critical for every sex addict.It cannot be rushed, underestimated or faced alone anymore than the early emergency stages of recovery could be when the addict was hitting bottom.So if a wife/girlfriend complains that her husband/boyfriend wants sex all the time and is there for a "sex addict", she is wrong?There is no such thing as being a sex addict and expressing it by wanting too much partnered fun and loving sex?Also, in slaa, sex is meant to be delayed deliberately.If a person has the addiction and is rushing into sex, they are not practicing sober dating.
These are the people who will ultimately pay the price should the sex addict act out or "fail" in seeking a happily ever after.
Compulsive sex is the fast food of relationships, and developing a taste for the slow-cooked meal may take some time.
Here the experienced therapist can be of huge assistance by reminding the sex addict that dating is not a race, nor a competition, but rather an adventure into the complete unknown where everything the addict thought they knew about intimacy turned out to be false, and a whole new universe must open up in order to move forward. Before recovery, the sex addict made decisions independently, choosing who to date, whom to have sex with, who to contact and what acts to participate in.
In fact, the author would recommend the addict to stay away from further encounters so there could be no more "potential victims" until the problem is solved.
If the addict is out there doing things with more victims, he/she is not under control and is not listening to the advice of anybody in the help groups anyway.
After all, addiction tends to arrest people emotionally, and in recovery they often surface at the point from which they left off, feeling, for instance, like a 20-year old trapped in a 35-year old’s body.